We form attachments so easily and sometimes place an enormous amount of value on these attachments that sometimes become our undoing.
Where is all this coming from you ask? What’s the sordid experience that led to this piece, you may ask? The truth is there were several stories that inspired this piece.
Gloria, the gullible lady so blinded by love that she was blind to the lies that were her truth. Public humiliation at the hands of her ‘love’ after years of devotion, sacrifice and commitment.
Cynthia, the idiot who accepted her cheating partner who after years of stomaching the atrocities still got left at the altar.
Or Michael, the lovesick puppy who funded his girlfriend through school and supported her family for years only to be told that he was not good enough when a ‘better’ package came along.
Countless incidents of scared and mistreated lovers who are genuinely nice people but got rail rolled by this thing called love. Leaving behind bitter and cynical shells. *Deep sigh*
Love’s a powerful emotion. It is so strong it can change your life forever. It has the ability to make or mar us should we let it get out of hand. Love is dangerous. Love is liberating. For those who have tasted the liberating power of love, they will tell you it is empowering and life giving. It makes them want to break into song and dance at the littlest provocation. Some can pinpoint the exact moment they knew their life changed forever and that moment was a love moment.
For those who have been burnt by the engulfing flames of love, theirs is a different tale. To them, love is a sickness of the mind; it consists of several moments of madness that when stringed together, creates a picture of an insane person needing incarceration in a mental institute.
For these insane lovers, sanity can be restored at the moment of release. That one moment of clarity when you look back and catch a glimpse of the train wreck behind you; look down and see how hard you are clutching, and desperately too, to an illusion and then realize that the thing you so desperately tried to preserve was never worth the cost. Why waste your time reliving the past or beating yourself up for failures that were never entirely your fault?
Let go of the fear, the sadness, the self-loathing, the anxiety and just breath. Communicate with your future self and let them tell you that you’ll be just fine. As long as you let go, breathe and take it one day at a time.
There is no fear in love.
And yes you can live without this person. Trust me, you can.